What are The Levels of Intimacy and Why are They Important in a Marriage?

 

On today’s blog we are going to get intimate… just kidding but really, I want to talk what the levels of intimacy are and why they are important in a marriage. There are many levels of intimacy whether its emotional, intellectual, sexual, experiential, or spiritual and all these are all important factors when it comes to marriage. Being intimate with your spouse is a great way to strengthen that bond and it keep both you and spouse physically and emotionally healthy.

Let’s talk about the different levels of intimacy:

•         Emotional intimacy: this can occur when both parties feel comfortable with sharing what they feel both good and bad towards one another because it creates a closeness.

This is important because it allows you to be more open by really paying attention to what you are feeling and to what your spouse is feeling and not being afraid to open up completely and have that bond and connection.

•         Intellectual intimacy: it involves a understand about the important things that are involved within a marriage, in this level the spouses in the marriage are comfortable enough with each other to talk and share their ideas and opinions and where they can come together to set goals even in hard times when they do not always see eye to eye.

This is important because it helps you communicate with your spouse especially when you do not see eye to eye. Having intellectual conversations with your spouse may be something that you find attractive. Some examples I know are getting together and setting goals about life, sharing ideas on how to save money, or planning a vacation.  

•           Sexual intimacy: this is one of the most important dimensions of a healthy and strong marriage. This can include sexual frequency that both parties enjoy and are satisfied with, sexual interest that both parties enjoy and last having an open conversation about sex and the expectations that both parties have.

Yes, being sexual with your spouse is amazing but having a conversation about the expectations both parties have, it can be great way to see what both parties are interested in doing and it help you become closer.

• Experiential intimacy: involves both parties getting really involved with one another different and mutual activities that both parties may or may not like, it’s about being interested in another other and being able to sacrifice doing things you may or may not like to be able to spend time with each other.

This is so important because it allows you to show your spouse that you care and are making effort to be around them, and it shows that you are trying to take an interest in what they like, and it works the other way around.

• Spiritual intimacy: I think this is an important level of marriage because its where you can share with each other your religious belief and practice those religious belief with one another like praying or attending church on Sundays, where both can share those spirituals moments or experiences as well as talk about goals that you both may have, a level where you both can grow spiritually.

I think this is important because when the marriage has a religious base a marriage can last because you both share the same goals and the same standards and can come together and grow with each on another level.

These different level in a marriage are important and I cannot stress it enough when you have put these levels to practice in your marriage daily it can, and it will strengthen you marriage and it is proven that children do better emotionally, physically, mentally, and academically when they come from a home with two parents.